Question 1

Xavier and Yolanda solve conflict by fighting until they reach a conclusion both can accept.What does Gottman call this type of communication?
A) volatile
B) validating
C) conflict-avoiding
D) self-disclosing

Accepted Answer

Gottman calls this type of communication "volatile." It involves open expression of conflicting opinions and emotions, with a willingness to engage in emotionally expressive, sometimes argumentative discussions.

Question 2

Violet and Vicky have a relationship that possesses intimacy,passion,and commitment.According to the triangular theory of love,what type of love includes these components?
A) consummate love
B) fatuous love
C) companionate love
D) romantic love

Accepted Answer

The triangular theory of love proposes that love can be conceptualized as consisting of three main components: intimacy, passion, and commitment. Consummate love represents the most complete and ideal type of love, encompassing all three components in a balanced way. Fatuous love involves passion and commitment but lacks intimacy, while companionate love involves intimacy and commitment but lacks passion. Romantic love involves intimacy and passion but does not necessarily involve commitment. Therefore, choice A) consummate love is the best fit for the description of Violet and Vicky's relationship.

Question 3

Pauline strives to give her partner whatever he wants without the expectation of receiving anything in return.According to the styles of love theory,Pauline is engaging in _______ love.
A) mania
B) agape
C) storge
D) pragma

Accepted Answer

Agape love is characterized by selflessness and a desire to give without expecting anything in return. Pauline is described as striving to give her partner whatever he wants without any expectation of receiving anything in return, which aligns with the characteristics of agape love. Mania love is characterized by obsession and possessiveness. Storge love is rooted in deep affection and familial love. Pragma love is a pragmatic and practical approach to love, based on compatibility and shared values. None of these other styles of love fully align with Pauline's behavior, as described.

Question 4

Which theory states that people follow individual psychological motifs in relating to a love partner?
A) styles of love
B) triangular theory of love
C) field of eligibles
D) proximity effects

Accepted Answer

Styles of love theory suggests that individuals follow different psychological motifs in their romantic relationships, such as intimacy, commitment, and passion. These motifs can vary from person to person and can influence the way they express and experience love. The theory proposes six different styles of love: Eros, Ludus, Storge, Pragma, Mania, and Agape.

Question 5

Which of the following describes Gottman's conflict-avoiding communication style?
A) conflicts are resolved through calm discussion
B) conflicts are resolved by fighting them out
C) conflicts are resolved by reaching a mutually acceptable conclusion
D) conflicts are downplayed and resolution is not important

Accepted Answer

Gottman's conflict-avoiding communication style involves downplaying conflicts and not prioritizing their resolution. This approach avoids confrontation and focuses on maintaining peace, even if issues are not directly addressed.

Question 6

According to the styles of love theory,selecting partners in a businesslike way is characteristic of _______ love.
A) eros
B) agape
C) storge
D) pragma

Accepted Answer

Pragma love is characterized by a rational and practical approach to love and involves selecting a partner based on compatibility and shared goals, much like conducting a business transaction. Eros love is driven by passion and physical attraction; agape love is selfless and compassionate; storge love is familial and based on familiarity and comfort.

Question 7

According to Gottman,couples that use _______ communication resolve conflicts through calm discussion and compromise.
A) volatile
B) validating
C) conflict-avoiding
D) self-disclosing

Accepted Answer

According to Gottman, couples that use validating communication style are able to resolve conflicts through calm discussion and compromise. This is because validating communication focuses on actively listening to the other person's perspective, showing empathy, and finding common ground. The other communication styles, such as volatile and conflict-avoiding, may involve more heated arguments or avoidance of conflict, which can make it more difficult to effectively resolve conflicts. Self-disclosing communication is more about sharing personal information and feelings, and may not necessarily lead to conflict resolution.

Question 8

Zora and Anthony insult each other to the point that their interactions are abusive.According to Gottman,Zora and Anthony use _______ as their main communication style.
A) defensiveness
B) criticism
C) contempt
D) stonewalling

Accepted Answer

Contempt is a communication style characterized by insults, name-calling, mockery, and disrespect. It involves a disregard for the partner's feelings and a belief that the partner is inferior. Zora and Anthony's interactions are abusive, which suggests a high level of contempt.

Question 9

While attending a conference,Morris meets Noemi,and they immediately become lovers.Although they feel very passionate about each other,their relationship may not last very long.This is an example of which style of love?
A) eros
B) ludus
C) storge
D) agape

Accepted Answer

Eros love is characterized by intense emotional attachment and powerful sexual attraction, which fits the description of Morris and Noemi's relationship.

Question 10

According to the styles of love theory,storge love is characterized by _______.
A) passion
B) intimacy
C) friendship
D) selflessness

Accepted Answer

Storge love is characterized by friendship and companionship, rather than passion or selflessness. It is a type of love that usually develops over time between friends or family members. While there may be some level of intimacy involved, it is not the primary focus of storge love.

Question 11

According to Gottman,complaining is _______.
A) healthy because it is an expression of one's needs
B) unhealthy because it is a form of blaming
C) unhealthy because it expresses disrespect
D) healthy because it leads to stonewalling

Accepted Answer

According to Gottman, complaining is healthy because it is an expression of one's needs. It is not a form of blaming or expressing disrespect, and it does not lead to stonewalling.

Question 12

When Oliver meets a new woman,he is extremely attentive,affectionate,and charming until he has sex with her.He then quickly becomes bored and begins thinking of his next challenge.His behavior is an example of _______ love.
A) mania
B) ludus
C) storge
D) agape

Accepted Answer

Oliver's behavior exemplifies ludus love, which is characterized by treating love as a game, with the emphasis on seduction and fun without developing deep emotional attachments.

Question 13

Sexual self-disclosure _________________________________________.
A) promotes conversation about sexual likes, desires and turn -on's so that discussion of dislikes, concerns, and negative past experiences can be avoided.
B) is recognized as a unique strength of most Western cultures.
C) is unnecessary since intuition should be enough to understand one's intimate partner without taking the mystery out of the relationship.
D) allows for the sharing of information important for reducing risky sexual behaviors and leading to greater health and safety for both partners.

Accepted Answer

Sexual self-disclosure is important for sharing information about sexual history, preferences, and needs, which can lead to reduced risky sexual behaviors and better health outcomes for both partners. It also promotes open communication and trust in the relationship. Option A is incorrect because sexual self-disclosure should also include discussing concerns and past negative experiences. Option B is incorrect because sexual self-disclosure is not a unique strength of Western cultures. Option C is incorrect because intuition alone is not enough to fully understand a partner's sexual preferences and needs.

Question 14

According to the styles of love theory,what is mania love?
A) a love based on passion and eroticism
B) a selfless, unconditional type of love
C) a possessive, dependent type of love
D) a love based on caring and friendship

Accepted Answer

According to the styles of love theory, mania love is a possessive and dependent type of love characterized by high levels of jealousy, obsessiveness, and insecurity. It is often fueled by a fear of abandonment and a desire for control over the partner. This type of love can be unhealthy and ultimately detrimental to the relationship.

Question 15

According to Gottman,it is _______ that determines the happiness and success of a relationship.
A) how much a couple fights and argues
B) a couple's style of fighting and arguing
C) the level of passion in the relationship
D) the amount of romance in the relationship

Accepted Answer

According to Gottman, it is a couple's style of fighting and arguing that determines the happiness and success of a relationship, not necessarily how much they fight or argue. He identified four negative communication patterns that can harm a relationship: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Couples who avoid these patterns and instead use healthy communication strategies are more likely to have a happy and successful relationship. The other answer choices (A, C, and D) are not supported by Gottman's research.

Question 16

Ted and Ursula are truly committed to each other and enjoy intimacy,but have lost the passion in their relationship.According to the triangular theory of love,what type of love lacks passion?
A) consummate love
B) fatuous love
C) companionate love
D) romantic love

Accepted Answer

According to the triangular theory of love by Robert Sternberg, love has three components: intimacy, passion, and commitment. Consummate love has all three components, fatuous love has passion and commitment but lacks intimacy, and romantic love has intimacy and passion but lacks commitment. Companionate love has intimacy and commitment, but lacks passion. Therefore, as Ted and Ursula have lost passion but still feel committed to each other, they are likely experiencing companionate love.

Question 17

According to Gottman,_______ allows each partner to deny responsibility for the problems that are causing conflict.
A) defensiveness
B) criticism
C) contempt
D) stonewalling

Accepted Answer

Defensiveness is the choice that allows each partner to deny responsibility for the problems that are causing conflict. When one partner becomes defensive, they feel attacked and respond with defensiveness, which can lead to a breakdown in communication and ultimately escalate the conflict.

Question 18

Beatrice becomes unresponsive and withdraws during disputes with her partner.According to Gottman,this is an example of _______.
A) stonewalling
B) defensiveness
C) contempt
D) criticism

Accepted Answer

Stonewalling is when someone becomes unresponsive and shuts down during an argument or dispute. This is exactly what Beatrice is doing during her disputes with her partner. The other options, such as defensiveness, criticism, and contempt, involve more active (and potentially aggressive) responses, rather than withdrawing like stonewalling.

Question 19

According to the textbook,the amount of self-disclosure a person engages in is usually a function of their _______.
A) initial physical attraction to another person
B) need to be in a relationship
C) level of self-confidence
D) perceived closeness of the relationship

Accepted Answer

The perceived closeness of the relationship is the main factor that influences the amount of self-disclosure a person engages in. People tend to reveal more personal information to those they perceive as closer to them, while disclosing less to those they perceive as less close. Factors such as physical attraction, the need to be in a relationship, and self-confidence may also play a role in self-disclosure, but they are not as significant as perceived closeness.

Question 20

According to Gottman,_______ is the result of blaming an unmet need on one's partner.
A) complaining
B) criticism
C) contempt
D) controlling

Accepted Answer

Criticism is defined by Gottman as blaming one's partner for a problem or issue, often with global and negative characterizations of their personality or behavior. It can also involve attributing negative motives to their actions. This is different from complaining, which focuses on a specific behavior or situation and does not attack the partner's character.

Quiz 4: Intimate Relationships

Xavier and Yolanda solve conflict by fighting until they reach a conclusion both can accept.What does Gottman call this type of communication?

Violet and Vicky have a relationship that possesses intimacy,passion,and commitment.According to the triangular theory of love,what type of love includes these components?

Pauline strives to give her partner whatever he wants without the expectation of receiving anything in return.According to the styles of love theory,Pauline is engaging in _______ love.

Which theory states that people follow individual psychological motifs in relating to a love partner?

Which of the following describes Gottman's conflict-avoiding communication style?

According to the styles of love theory,selecting partners in a businesslike way is characteristic of _______ love.

According to Gottman,couples that use _______ communication resolve conflicts through calm discussion and compromise.

Zora and Anthony insult each other to the point that their interactions are abusive.According to Gottman,Zora and Anthony use _______ as their main communication style.

While attending a conference,Morris meets Noemi,and they immediately become lovers.Although they feel very passionate about each other,their relationship may not last very long.This is an example of which style of love?

According to the styles of love theory,storge love is characterized by _______.

According to Gottman,complaining is _______.

When Oliver meets a new woman,he is extremely attentive,affectionate,and charming until he has sex with her.He then quickly becomes bored and begins thinking of his next challenge.His behavior is an example of _______ love.

Sexual self-disclosure _________________________________________.

According to the styles of love theory,what is mania love?

According to Gottman,it is _______ that determines the happiness and success of a relationship.

Ted and Ursula are truly committed to each other and enjoy intimacy,but have lost the passion in their relationship.According to the triangular theory of love,what type of love lacks passion?

According to Gottman,_______ allows each partner to deny responsibility for the problems that are causing conflict.

Beatrice becomes unresponsive and withdraws during disputes with her partner.According to Gottman,this is an example of _______.

According to the textbook,the amount of self-disclosure a person engages in is usually a function of their _______.

According to Gottman,_______ is the result of blaming an unmet need on one's partner.