Deck 10: Developing, Maintaining, and Ending Interpersonal Relationships

Question 1

Researchers agree that relational development

A)proceeds in discernible stages.
B)occurs differently for men and women.
C)differs from couple to couple.
D)is affected by the stage of the relationship.

Answer 1

A

Question 2

Once past the introductions, you move into the substage of ________.

A)intensification
B)casual banter
C)exploration
D)pre-interaction awareness

Answer 2

B

Question 3

The upward movement of a relationship through five stages is called

A)a reflective turning point.
B)pre-interaction awareness.
C)relational escalation.
D)intensification.

Answer 3

C

Question 4

At the ________ stage, the first interaction occurs, which is a turning point for the relationship.

A)acquaintance
B)pre-interaction awareness
C)exploration
D)intensification

Question 5

Partners begin to engage in more physical contact and personalize their language during which escalation stage?

A)initiation
B)pre-interaction awareness
C)intensification
D)exploration

Question 6

More than half of the time, turning points inspire

A)the partners to escalate their relationship.
B)discussion about the nature of the relationship.
C)increases in trust and intimacy in the relationship.
D)the partners to de-escalate their relationship.

Question 7

Exploration is marked by partners engaging in

A)passively acquiring information about each other.
B)sharing more in-depth information about each other.
C)engaging in risky self disclosure.
D)personalized and synchronized communication.

Question 8

During the pre-interaction awareness stage of relational escalation, you

A)form your initial impression of another person.
B)respond to a large number of questions posed by the other person.
C)begin to engage in risky self-disclosure.
D)turn to each other for acceptance and confirmation.

Question 9

Decisions to date each other exclusively or to become roommates occur in the

A)intensification stage.
B)intimacy stage.
C)exploration stage.
D)pre-interactional stage.

Question 10

During the intensification stage, partners

A)engage in communication that is personalized and synchronized.
B)present a "public self" to each other and converse on safe topics.
C)depend on each other for self-confirmation and engage in riskier self-disclosure.
D)share more in-depth information about themselves.

Question 11

Inviting a person to a party, the first kiss, the first conflict, exchanging rings, all signify

A)de-escalation of a relationship.
B)communication difficulty.
C)relationships of circumstance.
D)turning points.

Question 12

A reflective turning point

A)signals that a change has occured in a relationship.
B)affects change in a relationship.
C)is a significant event in your relationship.
D)is where the relationship begins.

Question 13

During relational escalation, which two stages can occur in conjunction with each other?

A)acquaintance and exploration
B)exploration and intensification
C)intensification and intimacy
D)intimacy and exploration

Question 14

Information gathered about another person without directly interacting is gained

A)actively
B)transactionally
C)interactively
D)passively

Question 15

Being invited home to visit your significant other's parents is a ________.

A)causal turning point.
B)reflective turning point.
C)introduction.
D)relational escalation.

Question 16

________ are events that bring about change in a relationship.

A)Reflective turning points.
B)Turning points
C)Causal turning points
D)Introductions

Question 17

In which stage of relational escalation would you be likely to gain information about another person using passive strategies?

A)initiation stage
B)exploration stage
C)intensification stage
D)pre-interaction awareness stage

Question 18

It is important to be aware of the stages of relational development because

A)it allows partners to skip stages.
B)it helps to know what degree of dominance should be expected.
C)interpersonal communication is affected by the stages of development.
D)it facilitates terminating a relationship.

Question 19

Little physical contact and limitations on time spent together occur during which stage?

A)exploration
B)initiation
C)intensification
D)intimacy

Question 20

Turning points in a relationship signify

A)positive or negative changes in a relationship.
B)levels of tension in a relationship.
C)increases in intimacy in a relationship.
D)attempts to stabilize a relationship.

Question 21

In the grave-dressing stage, we

A)look for a new relationship.
B)create a public statement of why we broke up.
C)we feel our anger over the break up.
D)limit talk to superficial things.

Question 22

The definition of a relationship seems to lose its clarity and there is a decline of mutual acceptance during which de-escalation stage?

A)post-intimacy
B)individualization
C)turmoil or stagnation
D)de-intensification

Question 23

A post-intimacy relationship occurs

A)when partners move beyond the intimacy stage to a deeper relationship.
B)just after the escalation stage.
C)just before the escalation stage.
D)when partners de-escalate from the intimacy stage yet remain friends.

Question 24

During de-intensification

A)partners make an intentional decision to eliminate further interpersonal interaction.
B)the definition of the relationship loses its clarity.
C)partners come to grips with losing the relationship.
D)there is a decrease in dependence on the other for self-confirmation.

Question 25

During the individualization stage of de-escalation

A)property is divided.
B)grave dressing occurs.
C)partners no longer view each other as partners.
D)relational routines are followed without commitment.

Question 26

Which of the following is NOT a characteristic of the turmoil stage?

A)partners increase their conflict levels.
B)partners become complacent and spend less time together.
C)partners tend to find more faults with each other.
D)partners begin to define themselves as individuals.

Question 27

Abandoned partners least like which termination strategy?

A)the long drawn out break up
B)the on-again, off-again approach
C)the quick exit without discussion
D)the "two-timing" approach

Question 28

The perspective of partners changes from "we" to "you" and "us" to "me" during which de-escalation stage?

A)separation
B)individualization
C)de-intensification
D)stagnation

Question 29

During the stagnation phase

A)partners simply follow relational routines.
B)couples decrease their dependence on each other for self-confirmation.
C)partners turn to others to confirm their self- concepts.
D)individuals make an intentional decision to eliminate further interpersonal interaction.

Question 30

There is an increase in physical, emotional, and psychological distance and a decrease upon the other partner for self-confirmation during which de-escalation stage?

A)de-intensification
B)post interaction
C)individualization
D)separation

Question 31

Property, resources, and friends are divided up during which de-escalation stage?

A)separation
B)individualization
C)de-intensification
D)stagnation

Question 32

Highly personalized and synchronized communication, free flowing self-disclosure, and defined roles are part of which relational escalation stage?

A)exploration
B)intimacy
C)initiation
D)intensification

Question 33

During the separation stage, partners

A)intentionally decide to eliminate further interpersonal interaction.
B)prepare public statements that indicate the cause of the de-escalation.
C)define themselves as individuals rather than couples.
D)decrease their interaction.

Question 34

The point of de-escalation that represents the influence the relationship has on future interactions and relationships is

A)separation.
B)post-interaction effects.
C)individualization.
D)de-intensification.

Question 35

At what stage is it possible to stop de-escalation and either move into a holding pattern or return to intimacy?

A)separation
B)de-intensification
C)turmoil
D)stagnation or turmoil

Question 36

Fewer words are needed to communicate effectively in which escalation stage?

A)initiation
B)intensification
C)intimacy
D)interaction awareness

Question 37

During the final stage of the relationship, we engage in ________.

A)grave-dressing
B)re-ownership
C)independence
D)final de-escalation

Question 38

In which de-escalation stage do partners go through the motions of an intimate relationship without the commitment?

A)de-intensification
B)stagnation
C)individualization
D)separation

Question 39

During the intimacy stage, partners

A)engage in routine interaction.
B)share an understanding of one another's language and non-verbal cues.
C)passively gain information about each other.
D)begin to share more in-depth information about themselves.

Question 40

Talk is limited to superficial subjects, but partners have extensive personal knowledge about each other.This causes discomfort during which de-escalation stage?

A)individualization
B)separation
C)stagnation
D)post-interaction effects

Question 41

When following initiation norms,

A)deviate from the script to reduce uncertainty.
B)disclose information to allow the other person a chance to decide whether to continue the relationship.
C)expand and develop the conversation in safe ways.
D)present yourself in a positive manner.

Question 42

The following strategies are all classified as Affinity-Seeking EXCEPT:

A)look and dress attractively.
B)avoid self-disclosing information.
C)show interest in and ask questions about the other person.
D)point out similarities between yourself and the other person.

Question 43

Don't put too much into an initial interaction because

A)information exchanged initially is largely positive and may be biased.
B)partners may be too busy asking questions to organize the material each has disclosed.
C)it will probably take several interactions before a reliable cost-benefit analysis can be made.
D)initiation norms may interfere with establishing a relationship.

Question 44

________ strategies are ways and methods of getting people to like us.

A)Relational escalation
B)Turning points
C)Causal turning points
D)Affinity-seeking

Question 45

You can reach a more accurate understanding about your partner by

A)checking the accuracy of your perceptions.
B)passively listening.
C)managing conflict.
D)gaining compliance.

Question 46

Since the scripted nature of initial interactions limits our ability to achieve an in-depth understanding of another person

A)ask questions.
B)don't put too much into initial interactions.
C)present yourself in a positive manner.
D)observe and act on approachability cues.

Question 47

To learn about another person

A)identify and use conversation starters.
B)adopt an other-oriented perspective.
C)follow initiation norms.
D)ask questions.

Question 48

To put your partner at ease during the initiation phase

A)ask him/her 20 questions.
B)be silent and turning away from him/her.
C)tell him/her your political interests.
D)follow norms with greetings and introductions.

Question 49

We gather information about the other person in the initial stages of the relationship to

A)to reduce uncertainty.
B)to see what we have in common.
C)to assess their potential.
D)to give us something to talk about.

Question 50

The uncertainty reduction theory

A)depends on the skills of effective perception and active listening.
B)states we are driven to increase uncertainty.
C)states we are most comfortable in uncertain situations.
D)assumes we do not like certainty in our lives.

Question 51

Listening skills and ________ are as important in developing and maintaining relationships as they are in initiating relationships.

A)recognizing turning points
B)managing conflict
C)gaining compliance
D)providing confirming responses.

Question 52

Sustaining eye contact, smiling, being animated, or winking are

A)courtship behaviours.
B)approachability cues.
C)approachability minimizers.
D)illustrators.

Question 53

To show interest in another person

A)present yourself in a positive manner.
B)provide information about yourself.
C)put a lot into the initial interaction.
D)ask questions.

Question 54

When asking questions to initiate a relationship

A)adopt an other-oriented perspective.
B)follow initiation norms.
C)observe and act on approachability cues.
D)don't interrogate the other person.

Question 55

When providing information about yourself

A)observe and act on approachability cues.
B)follow initiation norms.
C)don't put too much into the initial interaction.
D)refrain from violating cultural expectations about appropriate disclosures in initial conversations.

Question 56

Which statement is not correct about the uncertainty reduction theory?

A)It is based on the assumption that we like to have control and predictability in our lives.
B)We seek out information to reduce uncertainty.
C)We are most uncomfortable in familiar situations.
D)In initial interactions, we follow a normal script to reduce anxiety.

Question 57

Control, visibility, mutual trust, politeness, concern and caring, and politeness are all what kind of strategy?

A)relational escalation
B)turning points
C)affinity-seeking
D)causal turning points

Question 58

Following initiation norms

A)provides comfort and security by reducing uncertainty.
B)allows you to present yourself positively.
C)assists you in observing and acting upon approachability cues.
D)identifies possible conversation starters.

Question 59

In the initiation phase of starting a new relationship, when circumstances prevent us from exchanging non-verbal approachability cues, you may try

A)postponing approaching.
B)telling the person how much you like them.
C)saying "Hello" to indicate and test approachability verbally.
D)telling the person all your good qualities.

Question 60

When a relationship is moving too fast

A)decrease self-disclosure.
B)increase self-disclosure.
C)maintain the same level of self-disclosure.
D)disclose in relation to how much your partner does.

Question 61

The comfort and support that are needed in a relationship can be improved and maintained through

A)compliance gaining.
B)affinity seeking strategies.
C)socially decentring and adopting an other-oriented perspective.
D)relational escalation.

Question 62

The nature of the problem, the stage of the relationship, and the commitment and motivation of the partners all affect the ________ or the repair effort.

A)length
B)degree
C)success
D)intensification

Question 63

In committed relationships, partners generally want to know how the other person is feeling, especially if the feelings are negative.Consequently, it becomes important to maintain a relationship by

A)empathizing and adapting.
B)being tolerant and showing constraint.
C)managing conflict cooperatively.
D)being open and expressing emotions.

Question 64

In comparison with maladjusted couples, one study found that well-adjusted couples

A)complained about each other's personal characteristics.
B)focused complaints on specific behaviours.
C)launched counter complaints.
D)displayed fewer attempts to avoid conflict.

Question 65

In comparison to happy couples, unhappy couples

A)display affection via nonverbal cues.
B)have more humour.
C)make attempts to avoid conflict.
D)complain about each other's personal characteristics.

Question 66

Rejuvenation of the relationship is usually conducted through ________.

A)direct discussion.
B)implicit moves.
C)bilateral dissolution.
D)unilateral dissolution.

Question 67

In order to provide comfort and social support, you need to

A)provide balance
B)use conversational sensitivity
C)have the ability to socially decentre and adapt
D)employ directness

Question 68

As the intimacy of the relationship increases, so too does

A)the ability to socially decentre and adapt.
B)relationship talk.
C)conflict.
D)affinity -seeking strategies.

Question 69

Being open and expressing emotions must be undertaken

A)only during conflict.
B)at appropriate times and with appropriate language.
C)when one partner is responding confirmingly.
D)when partners are showing constraint.

Question 70

Which of the following is a sign that a relationship is about to de-escalate?

A)more eye contact
B)no change in verbal communication
C)an increase in amount of time spent together
D)a decrease in physical contact

Question 71

When relationships begin to deteriorate, all of the following begin to occur EXCEPT

A)interactions become less personal.
B)touching and physical contact decrease.
C)ease of interaction decreases.
D)passive language increases.

Question 72

Couples use less present tense when the relationship is

A)in the initiation stage.
B)in the exploration stage.
C)in the intimate stage.
D)in the de-escalating stage.

Question 73

When partners learn to accept each other and do not feel compelled to disagree or criticize, they are demonstrating which skill?

A)empathizing and adapting
B)developing and applying communication sensitivity
C)managing conflict cooperatively
D)being tolerant and exercising restraint

Question 74

A reduction in physical contact, the amount of time spent together, commitment, and self-disclosing is called

A)relational termination.
B)relational de-escalation.
C)relational escalation.
D)relational stabilization.

Question 75

Marital satisfaction arises with

A)the ability to express negative emotions.
B)the number of positive feelings the partners disclose.
C)the ability to express emotions when they get out of control.
D)attendance at emotional encounter groups.

Question 76

Increasing our partner's sense of self-worth can be accomplished through

A)conflict management.
B)adaptation.
C)compliance gaining.
D)confirming responses.

Question 77

Professional counselling and adapting specific strategies are ways to

A)repair a relationship.
B)deal with children in the relationship.
C)improve the listening skills.
D)create openness.

Question 78

The four categories of communication behaviour that indicate increasing problems in a marriage include all of the following EXCEPT:

A)excessive lateness.
B)criticism or attacks on someone's personality.
C)display of contempt.
D)defensive behaviour.
E)stonewalling.

Question 79

Researchers found that romantic couples indicated ________ as the number one problem in their relationships.

A)lack of sex
B)finding time to talk
C)the inability to talk about negative feelings
D)relational de-escalation

Question 80

Disclosing information and direct expression are two ways to

A)de-escalate a relationship.
B)let partners know what we are feeling.
C)initiate relationships.
D)seek affinity.