Deck 5: Intimacy, Friendship, and Love

Question 1

The combination of intimacy, passion, and commitment results in

A)romantic love.
B)fatuous love.
C)consummate love.
D)infatuation.

Answer 1

C

Question 2

Which of the components of Sternberg's theory of love refers to the elements of romance, attraction, and sexuality in a relationship?

A)intimacy
B)passion
C)decision/commitment
D)mania

Answer 2

B

Question 3

_____ or deceptive love is whirlwind love; it begins the day a couple meet and quickly results in cohabitation or engagement, then marriage.

A)Romantic
B)Fatuous
C)Consummate
D)Companionate

Answer 3

B

Question 4

For Allen and Sara love involves sleepless nights and painful, anxiety-filled days.This illustrates _____ love.

A)mania
B)ludus
C)agape
D)pragma

Question 5

Bill and Linda have a type of love that is chaste, patient, and understanding.John Lee refers to this as _____ love.

A)agape
B)pragma
C)ludus
D)storge

Question 6

Which of the following IS NOT a central feature of romantic love?

A)trust
B)butterflies in the stomach
C)acceptance
D)sharing thoughts and secrets

Question 7

Marital commitments may last longer than those of unmarried couples because

A)married people are happier.
B)norms and structural constraints compensate for the lack of personal satisfaction.
C)structural constraints do not apply to marriage.
D)married people are more satisfied with their relationships.

Question 8

Factors affecting commitment include all of the following EXCEPT

A)structural constraints.
B)structural balance.
C)normative inputs.
D)balance of costs and benefits.

Question 9

Companionate love consists of

A)intimacy only.
B)commitment and passion.
C)commitment only.
D)commitment and intimacy.

Question 10

Davis and Patty have developed ways of acting and being that cannot be fulfilled alone.Reiss refers to this as

A)rapport.
B)self-revelation.
C)mutual dependency.
D)intimacy needs fulfillment.

Question 11

Our romantic view of love-based marriage is based on which social class?

A)upper
B)upper middle
C)middle
D)lower

Question 12

Those who are dissatisfied with _____ love often engage in extra-relational affairs to maintain the passion in their lives.

A)romantic
B)fatuous
C)consummate
D)companionate

Question 13

For Erika and John love is a game, something to play at rather than become deeply involved in.This illustrates

A)mania.
B)ludus.
C)agape.
D)storge.

Question 14

Intimate relationships provide us with all of the following benefits EXCEPT

A)preventing depression.
B)buffering us against loneliness.
C)enhancing our self-esteem.
D)providing us with positive feelings about others.

Question 15

Infants who sense their mother's detachment and rejection when they desire close bodily contact develop a(n) _____ attachment style.

A)anxious/avoidant
B)avoidant
C)secure
D)insecure

Question 16

Ron and Sue feel that they understand each other in a special way.Reiss refers to this as

A)rapport.
B)self-revelation.
C)mutual dependency.
D)intimacy needs fulfillment.

Question 17

According to Sternberg's triangular theory of love, the combination of intimacy and passion results in

A)liking
B)infatuation.
C)romantic love.
D)empty love.

Question 18

Kate decided to leave her husband because she believed she was putting much more into the relationship than she was getting out of it.Kate's decision to leave was affected by

A)the balance of costs and benefits.
B)normative inputs.
C)structural constraints.
D)obsessing over the relationship.

Question 19

All of the following are components of the Wheel Theory of Love EXCEPT

A)mutual dependency.
B)rapport.
C)self-revelation.
D)normative inputs.

Question 20

According to your text, intimacy refers to

A)closeness between two people.
B)being in love.
C)having a satisfying relationship with someone.
D)having a lot in common with someone.

Question 21

Maddie is very jealous even though there is no reason to believe her boyfriend is unfaithful.Maddie is experiencing which type of jealousy?

A)atypical
B)manic
C)reactive
D)suspicious

Question 22

When we first meet someone, intimacy increases rapidly as we

A)make critical discoveries about each other.
B)become more and more sexually active.
C)develop a successful relationship.
D)become habituated to passion.

Question 23

Which of the following statements regarding sex differences in jealousy is true?

A)Men feel most jealous when their partner is emotionally involved with another man.
B)Men feel particularly vulnerable to losing their partner to a more physically attractive rival.
C)Women experience more anger in response to jealousy than do men.
D)Gender differences in jealousy have been found in the U.S., China, Germany, Japan, Korea, the Netherlands, and Sweden.

Question 24

Lucy feels unworthy of love and needs approval from others.She fears that her boyfriend does not really love her.Her attachment style is

A)anxious/ambivalent.
B)avoidant.
C)secure.
D)insecure.

Question 25

A student who has an intense crush on a married professor despite the fact that there is absolutely no chance that the love will ever be reciprocated is exhibiting which style of unrequited love?

A)Oedipus
B)Cyrano
C)Don Quixote
D)Giselle

Question 26

Jealousy

A)is a yardstick for measuring insecurity or possessiveness.
B)is a sign of love.
C)proves interest or affection.
D)is rarely linked to violence.

Question 27

According to Dolores Borland, we should think of love not as a wheel but rather as a

A)clockspring.
B)sphere.
C)triangle.
D)square.

Question 28

Meg tends to anticipate and overreact to rejection.Meg's behavior is an example of

A)rejection sensitivity.
B)anticipatory rejection.
C)overreaction syndrome.
D)preemptive rejection.

Question 29

Our commitment to a relationship will remain high as long as we

A)continue to experience passionate love.
B)continue to experience agape love.
C)judge the relationship to be successful.
D)judge the relationship to be logical.

Question 30

According to the research of Baumeister and others, all of the following are true regarding unrequited love EXCEPT

A)Unrequited love was distressing for both would-be lover and the rejecting partner.
B)Rejectors did not usually experience guilt.
C)Rejectors saw would-be lovers as self-deceptive and unreasonable.
D)Would-be lovers saw their rejectors as inconsistent and mysterious.

Question 31

Bridget is very attractive.Therefore, others assume she is also intelligent and kind.This phenomenon is referred to as the:

A)generalization tendency
B)the halo effect
C)the do good, feel good phenomenon
D)the Kohn effect

Question 32

Unrequited love is most likely to be experienced by people with _____ attachment style.

A)insecure
B)secure
C)avoidant
D)anxious/ambivalent

Question 33

Anxious/ambivalent adults are most likely to become

A)Don Juans.
B)Don Quixotes.
C)Giselles.
D)Cyranos.

Question 34

_____ is the tendency to marry people much like ourselves.

A)Heterogeneity
B)Conjugal matching
C)Homogamy
D)Pragma

Question 35

Hendrick and Hendrick's Love Attitude Scale is an instrument based on

A)Hendrick's and Hendrick's theory of love.
B)John Lee's six styles of love.
C)Sternberg's triangular theory of love.
D)Rubin's theory of love.

Question 36

Romantic love has been the basis for family formation in the United States for

A)the last 150 years.
B)most of the last two centuries.
C)only the last five decades.
D)only the last century.

Question 37

According to attachment theory

A)a lover cannot be an attachment object.
B)all important love relationships are attachments.
C)most infants studied showed the "anxious/ambivalent" attachment style.
D)early life attachments do not influence later relationships.

Question 38

Managing jealousy requires all of the following EXCEPT

A)the ability to communicate.
B)the recognition by each partner of the feelings and motivation of the other.
C)a willingness to reciprocate and compromise.
D)a willingness to promise never to provoke a jealous response again.

Question 39

Which style of unrequited love consists of a general desire to be in love regardless of whom one loves?

A)Cyrano
B)Giselle
C)Don Quixote
D)Don Juan

Question 40

The hook up culture is believed to

A)make relationship building easier.
B)make relationship building more difficult.
C)make women less interested in forming relationships.
D)be as common today as it was in the 1940s and 1950s.

Question 41

"Nothing serious" is the motto of ludic lovers.

Question 42

Love between companions is called ludus.

Question 43

Research confirms that love styles are linked to gender and ethnicity.

Question 44

Reactive jealousy is jealousy that occurs when a partner reveals a current, past, or anticipated relationship with another person.

Question 45

Our commitment to a relationship will remain high as long as we judge the relationship to be successful.

Question 46

The Don Quixote style of unrequited love centers on the desire to have a romantic relationship with a particular person no matter how hopeless it is.

Question 47

The transformation of passionate love is often experienced as a crisis in a relationship.

Question 48

The styles of love identified by John Lee virtually hold constant throughout an individual's lifetime.

Question 49

When examining the role that love has in American culture, we find that:

A)love is less important in mate selection in American than it is in Europe.
B)love is dysfunctional in industrialized societies.
C)love has become less important in marriage in the last two decades.
D)love-based marriage matches American cultural ideals of autonomy and freedom.

Question 50

Although unrequited love can be very distressing for the would-be lover, it is seldom a problem for the object of the lover's affection.

Question 51

Among the styles of love, eros is one of the most enduring.

Question 52

Which of the following IS FALSE regarding love?

A)It involves opposites such as excitement and boredom.
B)It is more of an activity than a feeling.
C)It involves an element of doubt over sincerity.
D)It involves the question of mutuality.

Question 53

Secure adults find it relatively easy to get close to others.

Question 54

Relationships are much more enriching and, as a result, more lasting if the two individuals involved do not have the same love style.

Question 55

Same-sex couples appear to have more equal relationships than heterosexual couples

A)in their division of labor.
B)in how they argue.
C)in how they resolve conflicts.
D)all of the above

Question 56

Romantic love begins to increase as the children grow up and leave home.

Question 57

The desire to be in love for its own sake is called the Cyrano style of unrequited love.

Question 58

Based on the feminization of love, we would expect that

A)women would be more interested than men in love.
B)men's expressions of love would be undervalued.
C)women would be more likely to need love rather than want love.
D)men would be less romantic and concerned with love than women.

Question 59

True love always involves some jealousy from time to time.

Question 60

Love in same-sex relationships

A)helps solidify a person's identity as gay, lesbian, or bisexual.
B)is more common among gay males than lesbians.
C)is based more on sexual attraction than it is in heterosexual relationships.
D)is relatively unimportant.

Question 61

Men expect more sexual intimacy on dates initiated by women.

Question 62

In both friendship and love, gender differences may be more exaggerated in what people say than by what people do.

Question 63

Summarize attachment theory.Give a description of each of the three types of adults identified by the theory.Do you believe that early attachments determine attachment styles in adulthood? Why or why not?

Question 64

Most passionate relationships have dramatic break-ups.

Question 65

Romantic love is usually unimportant in long-term relationships.

Question 66

Compare and contrast Lee's Love Styles with Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.

Question 67

Describe the stages of Reiss's Wheel Theory of Love and give examples to illustrate each stage.Then describe how the wheel might turn backward as a couple falls out of love.

Question 68

Discuss how friendships are similar and different from love relationships.

Question 69

Researchers agree that attachment styles in adulthood are a result of early childhood experiences.

Question 70

According to Diamond, romantic love does not require sexual desire.

Question 71

Bogle suggests that hooking up makes relationship building more difficult.Define "hooking up" and discuss why this might be the case.Why do you think hooking up has gained popularity?